lets talk about all the men who have had their houses robbed while they were asleep or have been shot in their sleep by a random robber etc
lets talk about how that NEVER happens and these men don’t exist!!!!!!
Woman poisons boyfriend. It’s his fault though.
She poisoned him multiple times, because he wasn’t paying enough of attention to her.
I shit you not.
Yeah, the discrimination women face is so much worse. The experts are already saying she’ll get a plea deal and although she poisoned him TEN FUCKING TIMES… she’s not getting attempted murder.
http://gma.yahoo.com/blogs/abc-blogs/woman-admits-poisoning-boyfriend-visine-drops-150328306—abc-news-topstories.html
But, of course, the words “domestic abuse” are NEVER mentioned…
Man gets penis cut off, Gets laughed at
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQELj8Vd7Ks&feature=context-gfa
I know things like this have been covered often, but it’s still scary being reminded that if my genitals were cut off, there’d be more people making jokes than empathetical statements.
i love how they also basically blame him for it “oh well you know he obviously did cheat on his wife to deserve that”
something that would not be acceptable to say about a woman in this situation sigh
Here’s a statistic for you
In 2010, it was estimated that at least 110,000 men were victims of conjugal violence, but less than 5% of these heinous crimes were reported. (source)
A while back, when my mother was telling my brother things, she told him to never hit a girl under any circumstances. As soon as she left the room, I told him that if a girl was hitting him, and hurting him, and would not stop, he could hit her as hard as he wanted to. His safety was more important than some bully’s.
I really can’t stand this double standard. If a man hits a woman it is always unjustified. Even if he is protecting himself, he is a brute. What a pussy. Even a woman can hurt him. If a woman hits a man, she has a damn good reason for it. That man is such a pussy, doing something to get the woman that upset. He’s a brute.
You could argue misogyny, but I’d call reframing the issue. Yes, the woman is being regarded as weaker than the man, but the man is either getting hurt/thrown in jail because women can do no wrong. How does that even make sense? Fifty percent of the population is regarded as being perfect by virtue of birth, while the other half has to fight their whole life to get people to realize that they might not be evil.
It is like that whole Schrodinger’s Rapist scenario. A man has to prove to a woman that he means no harm, and she holds the right to mace him if she feels even slightly uncomfortable. I’m all for safety and vigilance and all that, but I also like to see the best in people. Most people are pretty good, and they are kind and wary and respectful. And the man you think could be a rapist because he is a man? He is probably innocent.
Self Defense
Right now there’s a katana with a 28 inch blade resting on my kitchen table. That katana is my choice weapon of self-defense and I carry it with me whenever I go out at night. This is perfectly legal in the city that I live and I am far more comfortable and experienced with a katana than, say, a can of mace.
The reason I spent so much effort in learning self-defense and aikido is because:
- I have been raped (and by a women)
- I have been assaulted
- I have been beaten to near death by a group of men for being falsely accused of abusing a woman (which was later proven that she cut herself up and her marks were ‘superficial’ as the doctor said).
- I have been molested
- I have been sexually harassed
- I have been mugged
- I have been beaten up by racist people of color who felt I was not ‘of color’ enough and didn’t belong in the neighborhood.
- I have been beaten up for not being ‘manly’ looking.
- I have been beaten and sexually harassed by people who mistook me as female and blamed me for their confusion.
- I have been punched by a woman I didn’t even know who felt it was okay because I wasn’t one.
My fiance carries a can of mace to work and back. It sits on her keyring.
She’s never had to use it.
Where on earth do you live that it’s legal to carry a katana for self-defense‽ (I’d probably go with a longsword myself, but to each their own.) Beyond that, this makes a very good point.
It’s also just as much about men being recognised as victims as it is non-men being recognised as offenders. There are a number of issues involved here, and they don’t always happen at the same time. It’s not about letting male offenders go free, and it’s not about allowing violence against non-males, but it is about almost everything else. This borrows a lot (some of it directly copied) from this post - http://just-smith.tumblr.com/post/15196888141/violence-101 - and, as they have a similar message, would be supplemented well by it.About two in five of all victims of domestic violence are men, contradicting the widespread impression that it is almost always women who are left battered and bruised, a new report claims.
Men assaulted by their partners are often ignored by police, see their attacker go free and have far fewer refuges to flee to than women, says a study by the men’s rights campaign group Parity.
The charity’s analysis of statistics on domestic violence shows the number of men attacked by wives or girlfriends is much higher than thought. Its report, Domestic Violence: The Male Perspective, states: “Domestic violence is often seen as a female victim/male perpetrator problem, but the evidence demonstrates that this is a false picture.”
Data from Home Office statistical bulletins and the British Crime Survey show that men made up about 40% of domestic violence victims each year between 2004-05 and 2008-09, the last year for which figures are available. In 2006-07 men made up 43.4% of all those who had suffered partner abuse in the previous year, which rose to 45.5% in 2007-08 but fell to 37.7% in 2008-09.
[To read more, click on the link in the title.]
Ok, so here’s the thing. Studies have shown that domestic violence against men happen, and at much higher rates than what a lot of people care to acknowledge. They may say “10 percent” when it’s really anywhere from roughly 35-50%. Yet despite this evidence we have woman claiming that domestic violence is a women’s issue. We have women claiming that women need more protection against domestic violence while ignoring the male victims and all together erasing the male victims as much as humanly possible. This is because violence against men is so much more acceptable by society than violence against women.
Women, statistically speaking, tend to fear violence more than men and this is due to evolution. Any violence that happens to her may and most likely will affect her offspring. So of course she’s going to be more wary of violence and injury than a male is since he is expected by society to fight. What I would REALLY like to see from anyone who actually wants gender equality, is for people to work on not only reducing violence against men, but to also protect them from it, and make people more sensitive toward it. Society as a whole is currently more desensitized in regards to violence against men than violence against women. That needs to stop.
There is a hyper awareness of women becoming injured despite the fact that in most realms, women are far less likely to be injured.
Women are at a disproportionate risk of:
- Sexual violence, including forced rape
- Honor killings
Men are at a disproportionate risk of:
- Murder
- Manslaughter
- Suicide
- Capital punishment
- Child genital mutilation
- Police brutality and oppression
- Assault
- Violent theft or extortion
- Torture
- Unjust incarceration
- Death through poverty/homelessness
- Genocide
- Being sent to die at war
- Being sent to die at war as children
- Being killed or maimed by invading forces during war
- State oppression
- Gang violence
- Hate crimes (involving other characteristics such as race or sexuality)
- Workplace injury and death
- Slavery
- Intolerable levels of physical labour contributing to early death
- Early death due to a high-stress and demanding lifestyle
- Having their suffering compounded by being deprived of support
- Having violence against them of all types shown in popular media as trivial
- Having violence against them of all types shown in popular media as humour
Men and women are at a roughly equal risk of
- Domestic violence
- Sexual coercion
- Child molestation
- Emotional abuse
Yet despite all of that, we see men selflessly working on ending violence against women. Not toward themselves which is deemed by society as a non-issue and is so normalized that people sometimes even joke about it, but toward women who statistically speaking deal with far less violence than they do.
Even the website for Men Against Violence blatantly ignores that men are also victims of rape, domestic abuse, ect.
What sites and organizations exist to fight against violence toward women?
- Men Against Violence Against Women
- Men Against Violence Inc
- Men Against Sexual Violence
- Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape
- Men Stopping Violence
- Stop Violence
- Men Can Stop Rape
- A Call to Men
- Men for Change
- White Ribbon Campaign
- Family Violence Prevention Fund
- National Organization of Men Against Sexism
- Men Against Domestic Violence
- National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence
- The Safety Net
- Dads and Daughters
- Emerge
- Founding Fathers
- Mad Dads
- Men United Against Sexual Assault
- Men’s Resources International
- No More
- V Day Men
- Walk a Mile in Her Shoes
Of course… there’s also more that I missed, but every single one of them focuses upon ending violence against women and children. Not a single one mentioned violence against men, and if they did, it was silently spoken and left in the shadows.
Organizations against violence toward men?
- (Somewhat at least… it seems more like an afterthought if anything.) Eve Foundation
- There are currently no major organizations stopping warfare, or mass genocide against men.
- SAFE
That’s really all I could find.
See the problem yet?
(Please note: I am not advocating against fighting against violence toward women and children. I’m advocating adding in men and not putting the burden on solely men as the perpetrators when women are also offenders.)
Reaction To Women Abusing Men In Public
Renae I thought you’d be interested in this. At one point a women like CHEERS?? and her thought was “Good for her! You go girl!”
aaah this is actually really amazing thank you.
i’m glad that at least SOME people helped him at the end, but it’s still really amazing to actually see it, i mean you can make an educated guess that nobody would help a man that’s being beaten up in public, but to actually see it in front of you, to see how many people walk right past is just unreal.
Egalitarian confusion
I just found your blog.Followed But I have a question Ive been thinking about writing a goodbye letter to feminism for about a year now because Ive followed some foundational dogma in feminist thought(which hasnt helped in equality in any form)for example what do you say to this-something that I always think about- “that feminism is needed because at one half of us cant even walk down the street and night safely”
Well, beside the fact that rape is only around 2-3% of reported crime, men are at a much higher risk of being victims of violence than women. Men walking alone at night should be just as worried, if not more so, as women are. Walking alone at night isn’t smart for anyone to do, not just women.
Thank you for the follow!
HSE - Statistics at a glance - PDF
Women want more female company directors
Yet you never see feminists complaining that men outnumber them when it comes to workplace deaths. Indeed, you often see them complaining that the workplace isn’t safe for women, who cares that isn’t particularly safe for men either?
Women generally want safe jobs, high paid jobs, powerful jobs and when women actually do want a job that is considered dangerous, they complain about that too.
Women in the military: We all know that men who come home from war are often emotionally scarred, suffering from PTSD and even commit suicide. So it’s no surprise that women coming home from war suffer the same effects, so why do they suddenly only start to care when it’s women who suffer? They want everything to improve life for women while they’re serving but do not care that men have coped in the same conditions with little complaint. Feminists complain about their treatment; women are generally not as able to perform the tasks required and while I can put up a tent by myself, many other females can’t (or don’t) and get the male soldiers to help them. These soldiers still get equal pay for less work and while I agree that they should not be stigmatised if they are unable to do as much, they have no right to be compensated for that inability. Any soldier should be put in areas according to their skills, not put peoples lives at risk if they can’t perform the required tasks when they used their gender to stay in a field they were not proficient in. If they have excellent aim, very quick reflexes and a strong throwing arm, they may be better at throwing grenades or manning a mortar than putting up a tent. Same should apply to any soldier. The British Army seems to be focusing more on women than any other army so we don’t tend to have as many problems, the men are gradually being marginalised but as long as women are comfortable and content, that’s fine.
It seems that equality = women getting preferential treatment in all situations.
Gender should not be a bargaining chip. If you believe that being female entitles you to take whatever you want without actually having to earn it, that if a man has a job he must have taken it from a woman, it’s not the system that’s the problem.
this is a really good post, you can’t argue with this at all.
